March: The Neck-Tension Month

March is when things start to move, and where a lot of people suddenly develop neck pain.

One client told me she stretched every morning. Did yoga. Changed her pillow. Got massages... Still tight.

When I asked her how things were going in her life, she smiled and said,

“Fine.”

So I asked a different question: “What decision are you avoiding?”

She laughed reflexively, and then stopped.

Her body had already answered.

What the body does when direction is unclear

In Chinese medicine, the Liver and Gallbladder govern direction and decisiveness.

When direction is unclear, energy rises without guidance, and the body contains it the only way it can.

Through tension.

This isn’t metaphorical. It’s neurological.

An unresolved choice keeps the nervous system in a low-grade stress loop. Muscles stay slightly activated. Breath stays shallow. Sleep becomes lighter.

Once this client made a clear (not dramatic, just honest) decision, her neck loosened more than it ever had from stretching alone.

NLP teaches us this:

The brain relaxes when there is clarity, not when there is perfection.

Questions for March

• Where am I waiting for certainty before allowing clarity?

• What choice am I already leaning toward?

• What would happen if I trusted a “good enough” decision?

Supportive practices

• Morning daylight before screens

• Side-body and hip opening movements

• Fewer options, clearer priorities

• Language shift: “I allow myself to choose.”

March doesn’t ask you to rush.

It asks you to direct.

And the body responds immediately when it finally knows where it’s going.